Cosciousness

Sometimes the greatest form of control is the desire to help.

It sounds paradoxical, doesn’t it? Yet deep within the human psyche lies an unconscious belief: “If I heal others, I will heal myself.”

But often behind this desire hides not love, but fear – the fear of facing your own pain when you see it reflected in someone else.

Many people come to me with the urge to “save” someone – a partner, a parent, a friend. Yet the salvation they seek is really their own liberation from guilt.

To try to help someone who is not ready is like pulling on a flower’s stem to make it grow faster. It feels like you’re doing good, but in truth, you’re tearing life away from its natural rhythm.

Help that comes from the ego can always be recognized by its expectations.

We expect gratitude, change, acknowledgment.

Help that comes from love simply is. It seeks no result, asks for nothing. It just exists.

True help means standing beside another while they pass through their own darkness – without dragging them out, without stealing their right to meet themselves.

Sometimes the highest form of love is doing nothing.

Stepping back with respect and silence, knowing that their soul has its own path.

Help only when there is no fear or need in you – when you don’t want to save, but simply to be.

Then even a single touch, a single word, a single presence becomes healing.

And you realize that you were never a healer of others, but simply the light in which they remembered their own wholeness.

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The Karmic Knot of “Saving”

Many women come to me with the same look in their eyes – “I want to help my child.”

They believe their children suffer because they carry something that must be cleansed.

But the truth is that the children are simply expressing the mother’s unhealed pain.

The unbearable thing – the one mothers often cannot face – is their own guilt and the recognition of their personal wounds reflected in their children.

A child is never separate from the mother – it is her energetic continuation, her unconscious imprint in matter.

Children are exact mirrors of their parents’ traumas. They carry no independent burden, but reflect what has remained unacknowledged and suppressed in the mother or father.

When the mother begins to heal herself – freeing her body from guilt, shame, and fear – the child begins to breathe again.

Not because it has changed, but because the vibration of reality around it has been cleansed.

The karma between mother and child does not unravel through interference, but through trust.

When a mother insists on “helping,” she unconsciously maintains the bond of pain and dependence.

The child stays entangled in her guilt, feeling it must “get better” so she won’t suffer.

True liberation comes when the mother accepts that she cannot live her child’s life for them.

Then love ceases to be a weight and becomes space – pure and free.

To allow your child to suffer when that suffering is part of their path is not cruelty – it is profound trust in their soul.

To not save someone when your ego screams “you must,” is an act of higher love.

Love that doesn’t cling, doesn’t demand, and doesn’t fear.

Love that simply is – present, silent, and whole – while the other finds their own healing.

When this truth is felt deep within the body, everything changes.

The child calms down, the mother begins to shine, and between them arises not a bond of need, but a field of freedom.

A space where no one needs saving anymore, because both have remembered that they are already whole.

If you want to help your children – help yourself.

With love and presence,

Aleksandar Danailov

Maitreya

Choose the Light ️

At the root of every human belief lies not truth, but need.

The need for security. The need for belonging. The need not to fall apart in the chaos of the unknown.

And that need is born out of trauma – faith becomes a defense mechanism, not awareness.

Every belief we hold – religious, spiritual, moral, or even superstitious – arises from the pain of experienced lack. From that primal moment when we felt alone, rejected, frightened, or unseen.

Then our consciousness created beliefs to explain the pain, so it could endure it.

Those beliefs later turned into “truths” we no longer question.

Superstition is an unconscious way of escaping personal responsibility.

It is the moment when our inner voice has already spoken the truth, but the mind refuses to accept it.

So we begin to seek external confirmation – “signs” from the universe, numbers, words, coincidences – anything to justify the decision we have already made but are afraid to acknowledge.

Superstition is the need to validate our belief through signs from higher powers.

If we don’t want to do something, yet lack the courage to own the decision, we seek “signs of destiny.”

We tell ourselves, “I’ll see what the universe shows me.”

But in truth, the choice has already been made – we simply don’t want to admit it.

The fear of responsibility, guilt, or disapproval makes us look for an outside authority to absolve us from choosing.

The real reason lies in our fear of standing by ourselves – of saying clearly, “I don’t want this,” or “I choose this.”

Superstition gives the ego a convenient escape: responsibility is transferred to “fate.”

If something fails, “it was meant to be.”

If it succeeds, “the sign was right.”

In both cases, the person remains dependent, not a creator.

When something shakes us, we don’t seek truth – we seek confirmation.

Proof that we’re not wrong.

And that is the essence of superstition: the need not to see reality, but to make it align with our pain.

Every human being has been wounded and needs to believe that things have meaning.

That’s why we see signs, symbols, and messages – everything that can offer us stability.

That stability keeps us from feeling lost.

But the more we rely on signs, the further we drift from our inner center.

True freedom begins when we stop seeking validation.

When we understand that we don’t need to be right to be whole.

When we allow ourselves to err, to doubt, to hesitate – we begin to see not the signs, but the essence.

Superstition dies where inner maturity is born.

Where we no longer believe – because we know.

Where we no longer look for proof – because we have become the proof itself.

What prevents us from realizing this? Guilt.

The awareness that everything in life comes only from us confronts us with a difficult truth.

Yet once we accept it, we move from blindness and avoidance into creation – into authorship of our own life.

And there lies another unbearable truth: nothing outside of us depends on us, and we cannot control the future.

There we need faith – a faith that something greater can protect us from danger, from the fears born of our wounds.

But every faith, in its deepest essence, is an escape from reality.

With love and presence,

Aleksandar Danailov

Maitreya

Choose the Light